So far you have given her all the right nonverbal body language cues to show that you are interested in her and you are safe to be with. You also proved you are socialized and can carry on a decent conversation and you share some common interests with her. Hopefully also you have displayed enough alpha maleness body language to trigger off her old brain limbic system needs for protection and survival. She probably sees you as a really nice guy and who also fits her deep DNA programming needs.

You have also showed interest in what she had to say and valued her opinions. That appeals to her new brain cerebral cortex and makes you appealing as a daily friend to have around. So now she wants to expand on that, share more personal interests with you, and to let you get closer emotionally and physically.
Don’t Miss Her Body Language Signal For You to Come Closer!

At this point in the connection she wants you to emotionally and physically come closer, so she is going to do a very important thing. Don’t miss it because it is very subtle body language:

arrowShe is going to touch you.

It will appear casual, unpremeditated and “accidental” rather than “serious”. It may be a touch on the arm as she laughs at something you said, or it may be a pat on the back as a symbolic gesture of “good job” as you tell a story. In any case, it is not accidental! Her strong DNA programming is saying in body language, “I feel safe with you. You may come closer.” And she will be looking and waiting for a reply to her daring flirting feminine body language message, so be prepared to give the right response!

Your body language response should be to accept the touch and not move away as if you are afraid of her. Moving away or not replying with a touch (ignoring it) would indicate to her that she had gone too far into your space and you don’t want her that close. You don’t want to send her that message!

Your positive body language response should be to return the touch with an EQUAL touch. Your response must be precise and appear ever so casual. To increase the emotional connection with her you must reply in a very short time (never more than a few minutes) with an equally casual touch, never stronger than hers. This nonverbal flirting body language implies an equality of interest and safety feeling. Your return touch, as gentle as hers, assures her that you are not going to attack now that she has let down her defenses. Remember: Don’t get more physical than her. When you both do this right, your bodies will be carrying on a powerful conversation that says, “I like and trust you. I am willing to come closer.” This often is done all unconsciously because it is instinctual behavior carried in our DNA.

She knows exactly what you are after. If she is not ready, she will be displaying body language like moving back, crossing her arms and changing the subject. So as you explore her more, keep the conversation light with as much humor as you can muster up. In one research study, women said a sense of humor was the trait they appreciated and enjoyed the most in a man on a first date.

So if she is laughing with you, facing you directly, mirroring your motions and positions then you are ready to move on to Step 5.