The first secret about body language is that much of our body language is about getting sex — or defending against it. In the ancient past, the most important biological purpose in life was to find a mate to help pass on the parent’s genes in offspring. Most humans and animals have a powerful drive to find a mate for sex because it feels super-fantastic! Unconscious body language often reveals a person hunting for a mate and sex.

Here is one example of a man’s posture emphasizing his sexuality. When casually standing like this, he will usually directly face the woman who appeals to him. Notice that the fingers all point to “you-know-what-is-important” to this guy: Sex! Of course, guys claim that this is just a comfortable way to stand.
Yah, sure it is — NOT!

I am available female pose.Here at the right is one way women call attention to their sexuality with their body language. It is quite obvious that this woman is unconsciously advertising to the world that she is a healthy woman. This woman’s body language could not be more clear and simple! She is unconsciously saying, “My womb is empty and available.” This is very deep, old brain limbic system-driven body language programmed by the DNA from our ancient ancestors. This ancient part of the brain functions in very basic ways, driving us to find a mate. This drive is handled differently in men and women.

Nearly every sperm-producing animal and human male must expend much time and effort in convincing the female to accept him and his sperm. This has forced most males, both animals and humans, to initiate a process called “courtship”. Animal and human courtship is done in many different ways. Some male birds, whales and gibbons “sing”. Some birds dance or build special nests to attract a female. Human males have been very innovative in countless ways to attract a mate through courting.

Human courtship usually starts as flirting and dating. This courting ritual normally involves joint activities to close the physical and emotional distance, so two people can become one loving couple. How this courting is done varies widely throughout cultures and in individuals.

Why Men and Women Are Different (Surprise!)
Women generally have a drive to get the same good physical sexual feelings that men want. However, before birth control methods, women had to prepare more than men for sex because of the huge job of possible pregnancy and raising the offspring. Therefore historically women have handled getting sex differently than men.

Throughout history, women with the most success in raising healthy and intelligent offspring selected a good mate who helped in all aspects of family building over the long term. In the long run, this careful selection process has been good for the species. A woman’s wise choice of a mate who sticks around and helps raise the babies gives the best chance to produce healthy offspring that survive.

On the other hand, single men generally have little investment and risk in spontaneous sex. They can come and go without further commitments. This is very different from the woman’s standpoint! Men are driven by millions of years of their ancestors’ genes compelling them to breed frequently and with numerous women in order to have the best chance for offspring bearing their genes. Here lies the big difference between men and women.
Secret #2:

* Women have a strong drive for seeking a QUALITY RELATIONSHIP with one man who will stick around and take care of her and the kids after sex. This comes from ancient female ancestors’ most successful strategy for producing offspring.

* Men want QUANTITY: lots of sex and with lots of women! Men’s ancient ancestors developed endurance and went for high amounts of sex as their most successful strategy for producing offspring.

In spite of all the social, cultural, and religious obstacles for humans to get sex in only an approved way today, couples are somehow joining and making babies. Fortunately, powerful hormones evolved in humans to drive them through the difficult obstacles in order to come together as a loving couple and produce offspring — often even in unapproved ways. That natural drive is what keeps the human species thriving on this planet.